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What is the toddler stage?

Your toddler (aged 1 to 3 years) is going through developmental changes. They're learning to walk, talk, feed themselves and use the toilet. At the same time, they don't yet have the social and emotional skills to control their behaviour.

This stage may be a joyful and challenging time for you. Your toddler might be defiant, emotional, loving or fussy at different times. Temper tantrums and outbursts are common at this age. Aggression often peaks as your toddler insists on being independent.

Read more about helping your toddler deal with new situations.

What is anxiety?

is a natural, short-term response you may have in a new or stressful situation.

You may have experienced anxiety:

• before becoming a parent
• during your pregnancy
• after your pregnancy

Sometimes, your anxious thoughts, feelings and physical symptoms may become so intense that it affects your ability to function. This could mean you have an . is the most common in Australia.

What are common anxieties and fears for parents and caregivers?

It's normal to feel worried as a parent or caregiver of a toddler. You might find yourself anxious about your toddler's:

• health — you may find yourself spending a lot of time worrying about symptoms or illnesses
• development — you may have concerns about milestones and compare your toddler's development to other toddlers
• behaviour — you may worry about how they will behave in public or how they will manage social situations with friends or family

If these worries are becoming a problem for you, ask for help.

What causes parental anxiety?

Your toddler may have challenging behaviours or habits. They might make you anxious about your parenting style and their development.

Read more about anxiety and parenthood.

When should I see my doctor?

You should or community health nurse if you:

• can't stop worrying
• feel
• have trouble relaxing or
• find it hard to focus
• feel your often

Your doctor can help you find the best .

To find a doctor or maternal, child and family health service near you, use the ºÚÁÏ³Ô¹Ï Birth and Baby Service Finder tool.

What should I do if I am concerned about my toddler's behavioural challenges, health or development?

If you are worried about your toddler, take them to your doctor. They can check your child. Your doctor may your child to a specialist and do tests.

Ask your doctor or child development specialist if early intervention can help prevent or address developmental delays and .

How can I manage my anxiety?

There are several things you can do to deal with your anxiety. Here are some tips that may help you when you feel overwhelmed with your toddler:

• Slow down your breathing — concentrate on your breathing and gently tense and relax your muscles one by one. If you are alone with your toddler, make sure they are in a safe place first.
• Focus on the now — stay in the present moment and concentrate on the actual problem. If your child is sick, focus on comforting them. Don't worry about other tasks, such as housework or emails.
• Positive self-talk — remind yourself 'I can handle this”.
• Break tasks into small steps — tackle one thing at a time.

Relaxation techniques and can help you manage your anxiety. Keeping is also important. and getting can make a big difference.

Talk to a family member or a friend for support. Connecting with other parents can also help with anxiety. Consider joining a parents' group or playgroup. Contact the child or community health centre in your area for more information.

Your doctor may also suggest seeing another , such as a . Sometimes, medicines may help.

How can I manage my toddler's behaviour?

There are several things you can do to manage your toddler's behaviour. Here are some tips that may help you:

• Set realistic expectations — some of your child's behaviours are normal for their age.
• Be consistent — use the same boundaries and be consistent in how you manage their behaviours.
• If your child is a fussy eater — avoid distractions, such as toys and screens during snack and mealtimes. Do not turn meals into a battle. Develop a routine and eat together as a family. Offer your child the same foods as everyone else.
• Model good behaviour — behave how you would want your child to behave. Stay calm in stressful moments. If you make a mistake, apologise to your child.
• Address aggression firmly but calmly — if your child bites, kicks or pushes, keep calm. Place your child in a safe space. Get down to their eye level and explain firmly but calmly why their behaviour is not OK. For example, "kicking hurts, we do not kick." Explain to them it's OK to feel angry or sad and offer an alternative behaviour they could have chosen.

Your doctor can refer you to a therapist or support service. They may help you develop skills to manage your child's behaviour.

What happens if I don't deal with my anxiety?

Your anxiety may affect your child's development and mental health. Taking steps to manage your anxiety is important for both you and your child.

Resources and support

• — call 1800 595 212 for advice and to get connected to local mental health services.
• provides a parents and carers mental health and wellbeing toolkit.
• offers practical information about your toddler's development.
• Call ºÚÁϳԹÏ, Birth and Baby to speak to a maternal child health nurse on 1800 882 436 or video call. Available from 7 am to midnight (AET), 7 days a week (including public holidays).

Do you prefer to read in languages other than English?

• offers translated resources about parenting and child development.

Looking for information for Aboriginal and/or Torres Strait Islander people?

• offers crisis Support for Aboriginal and/or Torres Strait Islander people who are feeling overwhelmed or having difficulty coping.
• has an Aboriginal Family Support Program to help you respond to your children's needs and to create a safe and nurturing home.

Looking for information for sexually and gender-diverse families?

• (COPE) offers resources and tips for LGBTIQ+ parents and rainbow families.